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Thursday, July 25, 2013

Tips Kumpul Duit Untuk Kahwin!

Salam semua..first of all, selamat berpuasa utk semua umat Islam. Kali ni pertama kali berpuasa dgn suami. Excitednya!


Anyway, dah lama sangat nak buat entry ni since ramai yang call/email/Tanya pasal persiapan utk kawen ni. Not to say that I have the perfect, expensive wedding. Tp maybe ramai yang boleh relate kot. Both of us coming from very, very decent family..we dont have the advantage of getting money easily at all. Also kerja pun baru 2tahun. Plus, maybe ramai jugak Nampak how involve I am in my wedding hehe. Beware: ni x applicable utk yg banyak duit

Ok, problem biasa kita dengar pasal duit. Meh kita cerita sikit2 macam mana boleh survive lol. I can say this is not an easy journey but its totally worth it :)

1. Set your mind, set target bila nak tunang, kahwin. Pengalaman kami, percayalah anda takkan pernah cukup duit atau bersedia untuk kahwin. Tak kesahlah berapa tahun kerja. Haha. I don’t know la…tp it applies to a lot of ppl. So, u jump je on the train. Jump dengan bijak. Jangan jump untuk mati. Jump for success. For us, we decide apa2 pun bertunang dulu. Sebab dari situ dah prepare and sort of bagi motivation untuk kami utk focus. Kami start from zero. Serious. Hehe. Thx God kami tak tunggu lagi lama, sebab lagi lama, lagi high expectation, lagi lambat nak recover duit

2. Work backwards! Set dulu tarikh. Then dari situ kita boleh budget berapa je we can spend every month
3. You need to know what kind of wedding you want. Grand? Meriah? Dalam dewan? Rumah? Formal? Makan je? Etc. Also roughly berapa agak2 invitation. Ini penting sbb dia akan set the budget of your whole wedding.
4. Family is really important. Make sure semua dpt agreement. Tapi kami ni pandai. We agreed on big2 items first. And slowly bagi idea yang full dgn complete plan n all the benefits. So family hanya agree. Bukan push taw. We give them suggestion, tp suggestion tu buatlah cara yang berpihak kepada kita. Haha. It works! Save time, money and reduced headache. Most importantly, my family esp parents tak rasa left out langsung pun.
5. Plan plan plan. I am planning freak. I entertained my wedding macam work project. I got gant chart, RACI chart and of course checklist. I got one all in 1 document hardcopy and also softcopy. If u xtawu cmne nak buat u can always google tp I make smthng yg work for me. Ada yg siap bg suggestion utk I buat buku persiapan kahwin coz it is detailed. Lol

6. Duit is everything. Like I said, we sort of jump on the train. So by hook or by crook kena korek jugak duit. I xde mindset langsung yang laki kena provide money. Imagine, my hubby to be masa tu pun same boat like us. What do u expect? So ladies, u need to work ur ass off as well! Carik solution. Jangan nag kat ur hubby to be on money. Take action. You need to start first or at least bg idea. So my real story is, I setup my candy buffet business with my hubby. Also, ajak dia guna herbalife and jadi supervisor. Sama2 bekerja. If u nak something, dun only ask..but you need to provide the solution.
7. Ladies, make up your mind. Buat scrapbook of what kind of deco/concept u want. Then stick to it. You need to research seawal mungkin. My bridal, dressmaker, semua feedback yang I am very easy to work with. Sebab I know what I want and I give them details to help them to fulfill my requirement. Bridezilla mode dtg bila u keep on changing ur minds and u tak reti communicate. Bila kita tukar2 mende n x stick apa yg kita nak, cost pun naik kan?
8. Setiap bulan put aside siap2 untuk bayaran depo atau beli barang2. Every month start after I tunang (10bulan preparation btw, include carik duit!) we will start buying/paying for smthng. I memang book vendors awal2, then bayar sikit2.
9. Go to wedding expo, share your scrapbook and ask how much it cost. Pergi awal2. I do this before tunang lagi. After tunang busy giler carik duit hahaha.

10. Communicate well with you hubby to be. Duit adalah perkara yg sangat sensitive bagi laki. Sangat. You need to tackle this issue gently. Bukan tolong dengan salurkan duit, tapi give him solution and ideas. What we did upfront we sit together, tgk kat budget spreadsheet and agree yg mana satu split into 2.. Make sure bila ada pembahagian ni, its achievable. Sbb takut nanti laki rasa lebih tertekan. I make sure mana I boleh buat sendiri, I buat sendiri atau source my friends or relatives and search byk3 utk dpt the best price

11. You need to know what is your priority. For me, I nak make sure my guests happy dgn foods, doorgifts and the place. So I mmg tak take for granted all those things. Sbb guests sangat penting sbb mendoakan kita. Tapi if ada yang tak suka tu, lumrahla. Yang penting kita memang sgt ikhlas. 2nd, I really want a nice baju. So that I can keep it until anak cucu. So bila u tawu ur priority, u know where to put your money more. For me, hantaran, cincin, makeup, honeymoon, bilik etc is the thing that I save giler2
12. Ni tips paling penting. Try negotiate dgn parents in terms of budget. Hehe. Mmg my wedding ni bkn sponsored by my parents, tp I nego utk dptkan half-half budget utk makanan. Makanan mahal ok!!! So Alhamdulillah, dpt meringankan bebanku hehe. My stand masa tu sbb jemputan ramai kwn2 diorg, so sponsor la mkn sikit hehe.
13. Betulkan niat. Wedding bukan utk impress. Mmg akan ada things will go wrong. So take it as test  Jangan risau rasa terbeban sikit..good things takkan easily come. I can say I got the most pressure last year. Work, business, relationship, etc etc tapi bila semua ended, I baru perasan semua I manage to excel very well.
14. Then, leverage on your friends, contacts, relatives. My case, my event runner + singer is my fren, MC jugak, candy buffet PIC, bunga telur n hantaran my relatives, tarian by my moms students, doorgift and some of deco by my fren. Banyak lagi u boleh leverage..but u need to ask nicely and bgtawu awal2 n bg kepercayaan kat diorg :)

GOOD LUCK AND ENJOY YOUR JOURNEY.
You will miss it sooo much! Sumpah! hehe

Monday, July 22, 2013

18weeks: Gender?

I am at my 18th weeks now. Alhamdulillah

Now I can see the gender of my precious diamond! hehe


1) Melihat kepada perut si ibu. Kalau perut ibu kelihatan tajam iaitu meruncing ke depan, maka anak dalam kandungan tu lelaki. Kalau perut ibu bulat bundar / melebar ke tepi, itu kemungkinan anak perempuan.
- xreti nak tgk..sbb kadang2 meruncing kdg2 tak hehe

2) Melihat kepada nipple breast si abang atau kakaknya. Kalau nipple abang atau kakaknya terbelah..maka anak yang dalam kandungan tu anak pompuan. Sebaliknya, kalau nipple tu bulat / timbul maknanya anak dalam kandungan adalah lelaki. Ingat..nipple abang atau kakak kepada anak dalam kandungan tau. Bukan nipple ibu ataupun kakak atau abang si ibu..hehehe...
- not applicable hehe

3) Melihat arah tidur si ibu. Kalau si ibu suka tidur mengiring ke kanan.. maka kemungkinan anak yang dikandung adalah lelaki. Sebaliknya, kalau suka mengiring ke kiri..hah mungkin anak pompuan.
-ok kanan

4) Merasa arah berat perut. Kalau si ibu merasa bahawa anak dalam kandungan suka duduk kat sebelah kanan..mungkin anak lelaki. Sebaliknya..kalau baby tu suka dok sebelah kiri..mungkin pompuan.
- selalu rasa ada mende menguis kat belah kiri perut. xtawu plak belah mana yang lagi berat hehe

5) Melihat perangai si ibu. Kalau si ibu semasa mengandung suka bersolek, bergaya.. hah kemungkinan anak dalam kandungan tu pompuan. Sebaliknya kalau malas nak bersolek, bergaya ni..anak lelaki la tu.
- bab bersolek mmg dari bujang malas. ohhh tp mmg stress gak la nak carik baju tiap2 hari nak g opis. malas nak iron baju..


6) Melihat garisan pada perut ibu. Kalau garisan tegak dari bawah ke atas tu terang dan tak putus-putus maka anak dalam kandungan tu kemungkinan lelaki tapi kalau terputus..kemungkinan pompuan.
- ehem ehem. memang x putus heee


7) Melihat pada wajah si ibu. Kalau wajah ibu berseri-seri orang kata anak lelaki tapi sebaliknya kalau muka tak berseri orang kata anak pompuan..sebab anak pompuan tu telah menarik seri wajah ibu dia..sebab tu muka ibunya tak berseri..
- ramai yg cakap muka berseri2.. (cewah perasan)


8) Melihat kepada buku lali si ibu. Kalau kelihatan licin dan putih berseri, kemungkinan anak lelaki. Jika kelihatan kehijauan mungkin anak perempuan (ni dapat kat http://aidura.blogspot.com)
- ni xtawu. mmg xdela putih..confirm haha

9) Melihat kepada response baby lelaki atau perempuan terhadap ibu yang mengandung. Katanya, kalau baby pompuan tu suka kat ibu mengandung ni..anak dalam kandungan kemungkinan lelaki. Tapi sebaliknya kalau baby pompuan tu tak suka kemungkinan ianya sama jantina dengan dia..pompuan. Begitulah sebaliknya..
- ok...baby girl mmg slalu lekat heee.
apapun, tak kisahlah gender apapun, asalkan sihat, bijak, baik. dari dalam perut lagi dah pandai and mendengar kata. alhamdulillah hehe. Kena jadi abg long/kak long yang baik!

doakan kami ya..still long way to go :)

Friday, July 12, 2013

Road not taken


Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I couldnt travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth
Haiya....im in the middle of two junction again.

Situation:
I am now exiting my graduate program in Shell. After 3 years of excitement, learning curve, high and down moments. So its time for me to think for my next permanent role. Alhamdulillah, the normal process is we have to apply for job in the system, go through interview sessions, etc. For those who are lucky, they get offers already. I am the latter.
At first i want to wait until my maternity leave ends. However, opportunities knocked on my door. I got 2
offers.

One offer is the role that im good at and i did it b4. But this time with different supplier. Basically this role manages the performance of the suppliers, tied back to their contract. This job allows me to perform at my own pace. I know i can do well in this position. Also the worklife balance is well taken care of. I am expecting a baby soon. Being faraway from my family and need to do everything from scratch, it basically freak me out.

The other offer is a lead/manager of 6 people. I will manage a service and people. This role is totally new even though i am well versed with the process as i was the process improvement analyst for that team. Imagine leading a team of experienced people, elder than me and i am totally no experience! Talk about firefighting everyday. Talk about managing ppl, process and customers. This role will really put me on stretch...however talk about opportunity and visibility that i would get (if i dun mess up). Also being a manager at my stage, it will really give me good learning curve.

I dont know. Being me i always love challenges. But i am not sure if i am capable. I will have a baby.. I want to be on top of everything. My career is very important for me and of course family is really2 important.
This situation reminds me of robert frost's poem.

Also a film that my hubs said this movie is abt me haha.
Watch "'I Don't Know How She Does It' Trailer" on YouTube

My husband is wonderful. He asked me to go for it and he will take care of the family.
Hmmmm...i dont know. Everything comes at the same time. Aaaa aaaa.
Anyone facing the same dilemma?
Can i choose both? I have always been told if u choose family u need to sacrifice career. Vice versa. I know if I choose the managerial position, I might not be the same person. I want to be a good mom and wife too.
Hmmm...